Understanding the impacts of loss of creative play


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Copyright 2006 by K. Ferlic,   All Rights Reserved

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As discussed in several place within this material,(conscious journey into creativity, loss of creative play) as a manager, safety officer and in developing technical training programs, the author observed that many people seemed to have lost passion for what they were doing in life. For many, so much of life seemed like work or some chore that needed to be performed. Many considered their work and even what they considered their life work which should be the joy of their life, as only the means to supply the money. The money the funded what they liked or wanted to do in life after work either on the weekends or in retirement. The question that arose was, “Where is this passion for learning. learning about life and engaging life that was in children? Where did it go”

As a technical trainer looking to improve the safety understanding of technical personnel in high hazard operations, the author spent an enormous amount of time trying to figure out how to get people stimulated and passionate about the materials they were learning. In essence he was pursuing the question, “Was it possible to re-instill that desire to learn that so many child exhibit as they learn and explore the early years of life?” His ideas was that if it could be done, it would make learning much easier, faster, and improve the safety of the organization.

But it was exceeding difficult. Through a synchronicity and the observation of the release and subsequent recapture of an individual’s creative spirit, the next obvious question which ended up being the ultimate question was asked. “Why, or where, do we loose that passion for play, creating and exploration that we had as children?” That answer to this question is addressed in the topic, “Loss of creative play.”

However, there is another question that parallels this question. The parallel question is, “What is lost when we lose that passion for play, creating and exploration.” What is addressed here is one of the more profound observations which results in the loss of creative play.

Part of the answer to this question is obvious. That is, we lose the ability to one degree or another for creative play and to freely live what is symbolized in the heart. Because of mind's desire to keep us safe because of what we experience in the loss of play, we lose some of our conscious creative power and creative ability and we lose some, if not most of the desire, to freely explore our world and options and possibilities. We may keep some ability to creative play in some areas of our life and we will never really lose our creative power and creative ability for most of is resides in our nonconscious mind. However we do lose our creative power and creative ability to consciously create. Similarly, we do lose our ability to be free to explore our world. We may freely explore those parts of our world that our mind thinks is safe to explore but, nevertheless, much of our world remains off limits. But these are not the more profound impacts.

The more profound impact is that we lose the ability to live life itself for our ability to enter creative play is reflect of how free our creative spirit is free to express itself and how free we are to express our creative passion. The three, our creative spirit, our creative passion and are creative play are all integrally linked. In essence each is a different facet of the same crystal. Exactly what that means for each of us is different for we each are unique creation. However, we can be assured life itself is denied us when we are unable to freely creatively play. In essence, parts of who and what we are never express and those that are expressed can be significantly effected. Most of us never notice what is not expressed and lost because it has not been experienced. Yet, when we are able to freely experience what lies in our heart it become clear how much of ourselves is never expressed.

For those parts that are expressed and are affected by the loss of our creative play, often we end up experiencing accident, illness and/or disease. In studying creativity, it was learned that ancient shamanic type healers when asked to heal a sick individual would ask three questions. The three questions were: “When did you stop dancing? When did you stop singing? When did you stop dreaming?”

In first hearing these three questions, they seemed a little puzzling. They did not really seem to address the issue of healing. Why would a healer ask about dancing, singing and dreaming? The question was, “To what was the shaman referring that these questions should be asked - what does healing have to do with dancing, singing and dreaming?’
As a side note, it was interesting to observe, the author found he could answer two of these questions immediately. He could tell you exactly when and where he stopped singing and why. Similarly he could give the circumstances of why he stopped dancing. Both were very clear in his mind when and how they occurred. However, he was somewhat puzzled in that he recognized that he never stopped dreaming. In fact in many ways his life continued to evolve around one particular dream he carried from his childhood. That dream lasted about thirty-five years well into adult hood . It was carried until it was replaced by another dream, a dream more appropriate to become an adult consciousness and an adult creator. That is when he finally grew up and replaced his childhood dream with an adult dream. Little did he know at the time, but that childhood dream of 35 years is what kept his child like abilities to play alive and that was essential for manifesting the adult dream.

As for understanding the reason why a shaman would ask such question, the answer only become obvious after coming to the realization of the existing of a creative spirit within each heart. It was only then the reason as to why these particular three questions would be asked by a shaman before they attempted to heal someone could be understood. Our creative spirit is what gives us life. It is what gives us a passion for life and for living. It is the source of our creative passion. It express itself in our creative play. When our creative spirit is not free to express itself in the way it needs to be express, a part of us dies. If a part of our creative spirit that is expresses is serious thwarted in its efforts we should not be surprised at encountering accident, illness and/or disease.

When we live in that childlike state of play, we sing when we feel like singing no matter when and where we find ourselves. We dances when we feel like dancing. In this state of play, we are always dreaming and having fantasies. There are dreams of worlds to come and dreams of worlds to create. To the child, it doesn’t matter what the adults think about the fantasies and dreams they carry. Nor does the child care if the dreams are real or could be made real They were real to the child and that is all that mattered..

From the creativity perspective, the wisdom of the shaman in asking such questions was that they knew that the ability to be in a state of play and to be in one’s creativity was essential for one’s health. The shaman may not express in those words and in that way, but they nevertheless intuitively knew that fact. If a person loses their ability to play and loses access to the state of creative play, then it was highly probable that they would become ill.

If the individual had not lost their ability to play, the shaman would then begin to look to other causes for the illness. If the illness is not caused by the loss of the ability to play, the shaman could then look to one of three other areas. One is to what we would call a karmic burden. A second is to look to the soul and see if the individual made some type of choice for an experience that could only be obtained through the experience of the illness,. Or, third, they may have what could be caused illness of circumstance, that is, the individual does not possess the energy necessary to sustain themselves in the situation in which the individual find themselves. In asking these questions first, there is the recognition that the lost of the ability to play and the lose of ones creativity are a common characteristics of all people independent of the individual’s culture, time and place in history. Our creativity and ability to play is something inherent in the human.

In studying creativity and looking at what was keeping individuals from being creative, it became obvious that most individuals carried childhood dreams and visions that were discarded for one reason or other. However, what also discovered was that many of these seemingly childhood dreams were not dream of a child. Rather, they were the child’s interpretation of the reason for their incarnation and the intention for their life.

In looking at when this state of play is lost in individuals, it became apparent there are few additional items that indicated when this state of play is lost in addition to the three the shaman would normally ask. It was found when we are allowed to play with our dreams not judging them or denying them in any way, the dreams that we carry as a child are symbolic of the life that we are ultimately going to embrace and our life work. Or alternatively said, the child’s dream is the best characterization the child’s mind could give based on the experiences the child had to the date of realizing the dream. The child is very subconsciously aware of what they incarnated to do and many of the dreams they carry are symbolic if not literally a reflection of this purpose. However, usually these dreams are abandoned and smothered very early in life when the child begins to lose their freedom to play. It is in the loss of the freedom to play, they lose the ability to sample their reality to understand what is the best vehicle to express that dreams that they carry.

In looking into the state of play which we bring into life when we are born, in addition to the three questions asked by the shaman (When did you stop singing? When did you stop dancing? When did you stop dreaming?) We can ask the following additional questions:

  • When did you stop crying?

  • When did you stop speaking your truth?

  • When did you stop asking to be held?

  • When did you stop being comfortable in being alone?

If we look at all of these questions, they boil down to one questions. That one question is, “When did we stop being and expressing our truth?”

For most of us, we did it in stages. Slowly over time losing more and more of our ability to enter creative play. To any one or all of these questions we will have a story to tell for when and why we stopped. We all have stories to tell as to how and why we lost our ability to freely play. For most of us many of these events within our story occurred in childhood. Some may be from a very early age that we have long since forgotten and they lie deep within our subconscious.

Some who read this will say they never lost their ability to creatively play. But on careful observation, and if we are honest, we will find that we do not play freely as we did as a child no matter how well we can play today. Part of what it means to have a physical experience as a human being is give away our creative power and creative ability. The human experience is designed to cause us to think we are a victim of the circumstances in which we find ourselves. To do otherwise would not be to be human. But this is not reflective of the truth of who and what we are.

As children we initially were able to acknowledge our fears, pains and discomforts and express them as openly as our mind and feelings could allow. We could cry and run to mommy or daddy. However, as we grew older, we each learned in our own way how to suppress these kind of feelings somehow rather than continuing to express them openly and freely and/or to share them with those who were of importance in our lives. Many of us learned to mentally disassociate ourselves from what we were experiencing although we still were experiencing the events at some level of our being. Because of the flow of energy within the universe and through our being is continuous, these feelings do not go away. Rather they only find some other expression within our being. Frequently they manifest as physical discomfort,  illness and accidents we experience.

If we spend a little time to talk about our answers to these questions either to ourselves or preferably to another, we will find ourselves telling a story about what we think happened or didn’t happen to us, and why things happened the way they did. It is our story and our view of how our life unfolded. It is this story we need to understand and allow it to become very clear in our life. We will need to understand the story we tell and look at it very carefully. But then we need to realize there is another way to tell the story. It is to tell the story as detached witness and as a creator of the story. In doing so, we will learn to access and release our unlimited creativity. In telling our story we can being to see how we lost the ability to be the state of creative play and being to understand how to resurrect that creative play.

In looking to resurrect that creative play, whether we are male or female, both the feminine aspect and masculine aspect of our being must be healed for a proper balance to be restored. Exactly how our masculine aspect and feminine aspect are wounded in the loss of creative play is discussed in the topic, “Loss of creative play.” This point is noted here, because how the inner reflects the outer, it is most likely there will be an external feminine presence and an external male presence that reflects the types and kinds of healing and/or issues that need to be addressed to heal. That is, what we are seeking externally is reflective of what we need to address internally. The actual people who are the external reflections of the internal masculine and internal feminine aspect of being can be expected to shift as a we heal. For example, in the past a woman may pull a particular type and kind of male partners into her life reflective of her internal male. However, as she heals her masculinity, that external male partner will change. Either she will leave the old partner or the partner himself will undergo a transformation. How our inner world is reflected in the outer is addressed in the topic “How the Inner Reflects the Outer.”

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